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All the SINGLE LADIES! Now, put your hands up!

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Yes! Oh yes. Why are some women SINGLE? What are the possible reasons why these women are having a hard time finding the perfect guy to love them, support them and be with them forever? Or are they really looking for one?

There are thousands of reasons why we see SINGLE women everywhere.

And these are some..

(c) Dan Tan


Women are sometimes workaholic, or should I say most of the time? GUILTY! Yes, I sleep at 4 in the morning and I wake up at 10 or 11am.. I go out with friends on Fridays or Saturdays — WITH MY LAPTOP. Yes, with my laptop on the table with a couple of beer or a cup of coffee. But men usually get intimidated when they see workaholic women. And they sometimes think that women have the power to overrule than to be submissive. They care more about their job than to think of what to wear on a date. Regardless of, women still have their own way of showing that they care for men and at the same time, they still have this touch which proves that they still value their worth as women. So — You are single because you do not give yourself time to love and be loved.


Who would’ve thought that the perfect guy does exist. Doesn’t he? This has been one of the main reasons why some women that we meet everyday are still single. Some of them are looking for the perfect guy. But hey! There aren’t any. You might meet someone who is totally handsome and has the best attitude amongst all the men you’ve met in the past but has a bad reputation when it comes to dealing with his family. You might meet someone who respects his mother, sister, cousins, your siblings, your mother, your best friend and all the women in the world but is shorter than you. You might bumped into someone who has the “tall, dark and handsome” features which you’ve been searching for, for a long time, but is dying of cancer. See, nobody is perfect! There are many reasons to see the perfection in someone as long as you accept his flaws. We all deserve to have a perfect partner for us to be able to have a perfect relationship. But we must not find the perfect person because it doesn’t really exist. We can only have a perfect relationship if we learn to accept them for who they are. Well at least that might be possible. So — You are single because you are still looking for that perfect guy that you want to spend with for the rest of your life.


Men are sometimes adventurous. But some women are more dauntless than men. They are the ones who would sign up FIRST, to try bungee jumping, wobbly roller coasters and other risk taking rides. I wonder why SOME men are sometimes even more afraid than these ladies. (Sshh, believe me. I met a lot.) Whatever way you may seem to have in living your life to the fullest – SOME MEN, are still sometimes afraid of taking risks. LITERALLY, taking the risk of loving a lady like you. So — You are single because you do not give others the chance to know the other side of you. Goes to show that you are a perfect epitome of “no boyfriend, no problem” type of woman.

I LOVE YOU… Thank you, I love myself too. 

Oh how you love yourself so much that you do not want yourself to get hurt. So you’d rather choose to stay single than to be in a relationship. So what you do is you try to be happy, going out with your so-called best friends and hang out with your guy friends because you are always one of the boys. You enjoy having a cup of coffee at a coffee shop near you reading books while your best friend enjoys meeting men at a party every Friday. You luxuriate in having more time at your fave beach in town. You relish being a couch potato than to go out on a date. But you are not getting any younger. And at the end of the day, at the end of every night life, at the end of each chitchat day with a friend, you still sleep alone… Oh yeah. With your fluffy dog on the floor. Hence, you drive yourself home and sleep, and repeat. Same old routine and you enjoy FREEDOM to the nth power! So — You are single because you are a very independent person that others think you are already happy being on your own.


And being a girl friend or a wife of someone is not one of them. You enjoy taking your nephews and nieces at the mall on Sundays and you do not see yourself being a mother yourself. You would rather drive your mom at the nearest grocery store and shop on a Friday noon than to sit at the passenger’s seat of your boyfriend’s hot wheels. You would rather walk your dogs at the park while keeping your body fit. And even if you meet someone who might get interested in you while you are at the gym, you still do not make them one your top priorities. Odd but true. So — You are single because you do not include a partner as one of your top priorities.


A sagacious woman can handle any situation on her own. More and more women are becoming more educated, smarter, classier and independent while SOME men are becoming shoddy. I repeat — SOME men.. not all.. It can also be one of the reasons why you are not in a relationship. You sometimes tend to find someone who can catch up with your personality. Someone who matches your character and you can’t even try to be at least someone men can neutralize. You make them feel like you are someone they always have to look up to. Sometimes, we also need to act like a cowgirl. Try not to be scared of being simple. So — You are single because you are too smart to handle. Not your fault anyway.


Our standard is something that we value because we know our worth. However, sticking to that may result to not being able to find the person we are looking for. We may, at one point in time, but he might already be in a relationship, or he’s gay, or he’s a single dad. Still, not the person ton your bucket list. And because of this, you sometimes act like as if there are so many men in the world and there’s this one guy who is meant for you. YES! But remember, it may take too long before you meet that guy OR, you have already met him but you missed the bus. (wink) So — You are single because you are not ready to date someone who is not on the same level as you are.


Some women are afraid of entering a new relationship because of how the previous one hurt her. BUT – men are all different. Nevertheless, we cannot blame them for being like that. Sometimes, they aren’t just ready for a new attachment. Give them time. So — You are single because you are still moving on. Or have you moved on? Well, that’s at least what you tell your friends.

(c) Dan Tan


Love can be lethal. It can cause you to death. That is why there are these beautiful women who are still single. They actually have their own reasons why. And just like what I mentioned, there are thousands of reasons. And these are just some. But then again, Love can also save us. Choice is ours.


DISCLAIMER: I posted this because I have met several women asking me why they are still single. And men asking me why I am single.



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Please don’t tell me I can’t. Please don’t tell me I will never ever make it again. Please do not put me down. You have no idea how difficult it is to be in this situation. If only I could, I would.

The Dancing Shoes of a Hapless Boy

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“EARTH” Summer Lovin’

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     Here comes SUMMER in the Philippines! One of the TROPICAL countries on EARTH! How do Filipinos enjoy the heat of the sun in the Philly? How can they stand the mugginess like as if their country is so close to the sun? Right at this moment, the temperature ranges from 30-37°C. Can you just imagine how hot it is in the Philly? But most travelers still prefer to go to this tropical country because of its beautiful places.

     There are many virgin islands in this country that only a few people have already visited. And of course, others are the most famous beaches such as Boracay, Cebu, Bohol, etc.

     Let’s take a look at some of the beautiful shots of the tourist spots in the Philly.

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Apo Reef Natural Park Sablayan Occidental Mindoro.

An island where you can see thousands of coral reefs, blue water, and white sand.

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The very famous Cebu and Bohol beaches, where most tourists visit to enjoy delicious food and amazing sceneries.

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Boracay Philippines, one of the tourist spots in this country where most Filipinos and travelers visit not just in summer but all year round. Ugh, regardless of the weather.

It is very famous for having its white cold sand even on the hottest season of the year.

That even some couple choose this as their venue for their beach wedding.

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Burias Group of Islands is one of the major islands in Masbate which has a very clear water and has a lot of diving spots.

Cagbalete used to be an island where only the locals were the only people who get to visit the place, then it became known to people in the cities and other provinces because of its clear water.

Calaguas is a group of islands in the Pacific under the hegemony of the town of Vinzons, Province of Camarines Norte

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Caramoan is located in the lower eastern part of Camarines Sur in Bicol. Having it’s clear blue water and white warmth sand, people enjoy coming here often to experience the beautiful sceneries.






And who will not fall in love with this beautiful Island of El Nido in Palawan.

     Now, these are just some of the beautiful islands in the Philippines and some of the reasons why most natives stay in their country AND…  one of the main reasons why most tourists enjoy visiting this tropical country despite its very hot weather.

     Come visit the Philippines and bask in one of the most amazing tropical countries in the world!

Decided to use this for my weekly photo challenge, because I want everybody to see how beautiful the Philippines is. #itsmorefuninthephilippines

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For today’s daily post challenge, I would like to PAUSE writing stories and discuss this topic below, answering the question, WHY CAN’T WE USE “DISCUSS ABOUT” IN A SENTENCE.

This is also for my students in Japan and Korea.


Many people are making mistakes in using the expressions DISCUSS and ABOUT in a sentence. They are both used in a different way which can be grammatically correct, but never in one sentence pertaining to the same object.


VERBS can be tricky at times; we just have to analyze them first before we use them so our sentences won’t sound confusing.

TRANSITIVE VERB: when a verb takes a direct object.

Example: The old woman embraced her long-lost daughter.

*embraced – takes daughter as a direct object or the receiver of the action.

INTRANSITIVE VERB: any verb that does not take a direct object.

Example: The daughter was embraced tightly.

*no direct object in the predicate


  • verb
  • to talk about (something) with another person or group of people.
  • Talk over, talk about, talk through, converse about, debate (synonyms)

* GRAMMATICALLY, “Let’s discuss the issues” (is correct) since it is a transitive verb.

There are some people who MAKE MISTAKES in using the expression “LET’S DISCUSS ABOUT….”

This is an example sentence from New York Times, dated November 24, 2006, and I quote:

“On average, Kelley Fay finds that people DISCUSS ABOUT a dozen brands each day.”

Is it grammatically correct or not?

NOPE! IT ISN’T GRAMMATICALLY CORRECT. Here is how a reader should read the sentence.

“On average, Keller Fay finds that people DISCUSS (about a dozen) brands each day.”

WHY? Because “about a dozen” is a PHRASE, that is like saying “approximately 12”

QUESTION: Then why shouldn’t we use “DISCUSS ABOUT” in a sentence?


There are 2 REASONS why we cannot use “ discuss about” in a sentence.

  1. It is already redundant since DISCUSS means to talk about. So it is like saying “Let’s talk about-about the issues.”
  2. It requires the topic for discussion to be both object of the verb and object of the preposition, which is grammatically impossible.

Example conversation:


A. Let’s talk about this.

B. Talk about what?

A. Talk about the issue.


A. Let’s discuss this.

B. Discuss what?

A. The issue.


  1. Verb – a word used to describe an action
  2. Transitive Verb – a verb that requires one or more objects
  3. Intransitive Verb – has no object
  4. Phrase – group of words (or a single word) that function/ functions as a constituent in the syntax of a sentence.
  5. Discuss – to talk about
  6. About – proposition; on the subject of/concerning
  7. Redundant – adjective; not or no longer needed or useful
  8. Proposition – a word or group of words that indicates/indicate location, or some relationship between a noun or a pronoun.


Write C if the sentence is correct, and I if incorrect.

  1. She will discuss about the issue tomorrow.
  2. The professor will discuss Management this afternoon.
  3. Ching wants to discuss about your salary later.
  4. I will discuss the lesson next week.
  5. Patty wants to talk about the argument on Monday.
  6. Cathy will never discuss about why she can’t attend the meeting on Sunday.
  7. Carla isn’t ready to discuss that with the team.
  8. My boss called our attention and discussed about the drastic change in the schedule.
  9. Jenny will talk about the salary deduction to the teachers.
  10. She wants to know if you can discuss it before she leaves.



  1. She will discuss about the issue tomorrow. (I)
  2. The professor will discuss Management this afternoon. (C)
  3. Ching wants to discuss about your salary later. (I)
  4. I will discuss the lesson next week. (C)
  5. Patty wants to talk about the argument on Monday. (C)
  6. Cathy will never discuss about why she can’t attend the meeting on Sunday. (I)
  7. Carla isn’t ready to discuss that with the team. (C)
  8. My boss called our attention and discussed about the drastic change in the schedule. (I)
  9. Jenny will talk about the salary deduction to the teachers. (C)
  10. She wants to know if you can discuss it before she leaves. (C)




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“I am nobody’s territory”

I am nobody’s territory,  and so is he.

You are your life’s fulfillment,

even if you believe in endearment,

You owe nobody, except your family

So you don’t have to explain yourself to anybody.

Life is full of surprises,

believe me nobody has seen even the coming of the ISIS,

You just have to be thankful, and always be grateful.

Because life can always give you; an unexpected issue.

I am nobody’s territory, and so is he.

Enjoy every moment,

and treat yourself as your only opponent.

Be better than what you were yesterday,

because your life can never be replayed.

If you die tomorrow,

make sure to find the way out of your sorrow.

I am nobody’s territory, and so is he.

He can never hurt me, but only God can foresee.

I am nobody’s territory, and so is he.

Same goes to you, and your best friend too.

The sister of your classmate, the brother of your playmate.

We are nobody’s territory, except God who has the power to end your story.

photo (c) imjaydejavier

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It is easy being GREEN.. 

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When you wanted so much about the nature and all you want is to just take a deep breath, relax and free yourself from all the problems and worries.. You go GREEN..

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Batanes is one of the pricey yet breath-taking places in the Philippines. It’s a must visit. It’s one of the most amazing tourist spots in the country where people are known to be hospitable.

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Come to the Philippines and find time to visit Batanes. You Go Green!

photo (c) imjaydejavier

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Some people believe that if you live a SIMPLE LIFE, you then live an ORDINARY LIFE… I say, to live an ORDINARY LIFE, you live a SIMPLE LIFE… Come visit Batanes in the Philippines and you will see everyone living an ordinary life yet simple which makes them happy and contented.

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