The Anonymous Writer's Notebook

All the SINGLE LADIES! Now, put your hands up!

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Yes! Oh yes. Why are some women SINGLE? What are the possible reasons why these women are having a hard time finding the perfect guy to love them, support them and be with them forever? Or are they really looking for one?

There are thousands of reasons why we see SINGLE women everywhere.

And these are some..

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(c) Dan Tan

EXCESSIVE WORK

Women are sometimes workaholic, or should I say most of the time? GUILTY! Yes, I sleep at 4 in the morning and I wake up at 10 or 11am.. I go out with friends on Fridays or Saturdays — WITH MY LAPTOP. Yes, with my laptop on the table with a couple of beer or a cup of coffee. But men usually get intimidated when they see workaholic women. And they sometimes think that women have the power to overrule than to be submissive. They care more about their job than to think of what to wear on a date. Regardless of, women still have their own way of showing that they care for men and at the same time, they still have this touch which proves that they still value their worth as women. So — You are single because you do not give yourself time to love and be loved.

THE PERFECT GUY

Who would’ve thought that the perfect guy does exist. Doesn’t he? This has been one of the main reasons why some women that we meet everyday are still single. Some of them are looking for the perfect guy. But hey! There aren’t any. You might meet someone who is totally handsome and has the best attitude amongst all the men you’ve met in the past but has a bad reputation when it comes to dealing with his family. You might meet someone who respects his mother, sister, cousins, your siblings, your mother, your best friend and all the women in the world but is shorter than you. You might bumped into someone who has the “tall, dark and handsome” features which you’ve been searching for, for a long time, but is dying of cancer. See, nobody is perfect! There are many reasons to see the perfection in someone as long as you accept his flaws. We all deserve to have a perfect partner for us to be able to have a perfect relationship. But we must not find the perfect person because it doesn’t really exist. We can only have a perfect relationship if we learn to accept them for who they are. Well at least that might be possible. So — You are single because you are still looking for that perfect guy that you want to spend with for the rest of your life.

YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST

Men are sometimes adventurous. But some women are more dauntless than men. They are the ones who would sign up FIRST, to try bungee jumping, wobbly roller coasters and other risk taking rides. I wonder why SOME men are sometimes even more afraid than these ladies. (Sshh, believe me. I met a lot.) Whatever way you may seem to have in living your life to the fullest – SOME MEN, are still sometimes afraid of taking risks. LITERALLY, taking the risk of loving a lady like you. So — You are single because you do not give others the chance to know the other side of you. Goes to show that you are a perfect epitome of “no boyfriend, no problem” type of woman.

I LOVE YOU… Thank you, I love myself too. 

Oh how you love yourself so much that you do not want yourself to get hurt. So you’d rather choose to stay single than to be in a relationship. So what you do is you try to be happy, going out with your so-called best friends and hang out with your guy friends because you are always one of the boys. You enjoy having a cup of coffee at a coffee shop near you reading books while your best friend enjoys meeting men at a party every Friday. You luxuriate in having more time at your fave beach in town. You relish being a couch potato than to go out on a date. But you are not getting any younger. And at the end of the day, at the end of every night life, at the end of each chitchat day with a friend, you still sleep alone… Oh yeah. With your fluffy dog on the floor. Hence, you drive yourself home and sleep, and repeat. Same old routine and you enjoy FREEDOM to the nth power! So — You are single because you are a very independent person that others think you are already happy being on your own.

PRIORITIES.. PRIORITIES.. PRIORITIES..

And being a girl friend or a wife of someone is not one of them. You enjoy taking your nephews and nieces at the mall on Sundays and you do not see yourself being a mother yourself. You would rather drive your mom at the nearest grocery store and shop on a Friday noon than to sit at the passenger’s seat of your boyfriend’s hot wheels. You would rather walk your dogs at the park while keeping your body fit. And even if you meet someone who might get interested in you while you are at the gym, you still do not make them one your top priorities. Odd but true. So — You are single because you do not include a partner as one of your top priorities.

I’M AN ASTUTE PERSON! DEAL WITH IT! 

A sagacious woman can handle any situation on her own. More and more women are becoming more educated, smarter, classier and independent while SOME men are becoming shoddy. I repeat — SOME men.. not all.. It can also be one of the reasons why you are not in a relationship. You sometimes tend to find someone who can catch up with your personality. Someone who matches your character and you can’t even try to be at least someone men can neutralize. You make them feel like you are someone they always have to look up to. Sometimes, we also need to act like a cowgirl. Try not to be scared of being simple. So — You are single because you are too smart to handle. Not your fault anyway.

HIGH STANDARD

Our standard is something that we value because we know our worth. However, sticking to that may result to not being able to find the person we are looking for. We may, at one point in time, but he might already be in a relationship, or he’s gay, or he’s a single dad. Still, not the person ton your bucket list. And because of this, you sometimes act like as if there are so many men in the world and there’s this one guy who is meant for you. YES! But remember, it may take too long before you meet that guy OR, you have already met him but you missed the bus. (wink) So — You are single because you are not ready to date someone who is not on the same level as you are.

 THIS CAKE IS EVEN BETTER THAN MY EX!

Some women are afraid of entering a new relationship because of how the previous one hurt her. BUT – men are all different. Nevertheless, we cannot blame them for being like that. Sometimes, they aren’t just ready for a new attachment. Give them time. So — You are single because you are still moving on. Or have you moved on? Well, that’s at least what you tell your friends.

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(c) Dan Tan

 

Love can be lethal. It can cause you to death. That is why there are these beautiful women who are still single. They actually have their own reasons why. And just like what I mentioned, there are thousands of reasons. And these are just some. But then again, Love can also save us. Choice is ours.

 

DISCLAIMER: I posted this because I have met several women asking me why they are still single. And men asking me why I am single.

 

 

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