The Anonymous Writer's Notebook

Is your SUMMER over?

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      April of this year, I posted a blog about the start of summer in the philly… Talks about SOME of the famous beaches in the Philippines. How visitors enjoy their stay here and why Filipinos are so delighted of the country.

One of the beaches that I included there is CAGBALETE. Just a few weeks ago, I myself visited the place with some of my friends and discovered how beautiful the island is.

One of the resort owners in Lamon Bay (a large bay in the southern part of Luzon Island in the Philippines) happened to be our friend and offered us a tour in Pansacola Beach in Cagbalete whose owner happened to be his cousin.

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Pansacola Beach is a 40-minute travel by boat from Mauban Port. The beach resort almost certainly has the widest beachfront compared to other beach resorts in Cagbalete.

You just have to be there early, or you will have to walk a lot during low tide.

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Its white sand and very clear water gave us a strong desire of recommending the place to other people and to help them advertise the island.

Life in Cagbalete is very simple. We stayed here overnight and we really enjoyed the place and the company of each other because we weren’t able to use our cellphones for a long time.

There are some cottages that you can rent which provide you air-conditioned rooms. There are some small and large tables that you can rent as well if you would wish to stay and use a tent overnight.

Unfortunately, we were not able to rent a cottage since we came late so we all decided to sleep in a tent (P300 per tent). Glad we stayed there and we all experienced how difficult it is to stay in a tent unprepared.

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What made us love the place, even more, is when we looked for a store to buy something but since there are only a few numbers of stores in the area, we had to walk to the next town and saw how clean the place is.

Most of the stores in the island do not sell hard booze and cigars. (Beer is available at some stores though). You better make sure you have it with you on your way to the island. Granted that you have forgotten it, find some young locals playing or just hanging out, wasting much of their time walking there. You can ask them to buy some items for you, just give them P20.00 or so. They save money for their school “baon”.

There are also some locals selling souvenirs which cost a little, ranging from P10.00 to P150.00. Come on don’t be a jerk! Buy at least 3 pieces. It helps them feed their families.

At night, you will get to watch fire dancers performing for all the guests in a very loud music that can even make you dance, followed by fireworks.

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The heat of the sun the whole day was scorching. But everything was all worth the stay.

Thank you PANSACOLA BEACH, we’d love to visit the place again.

     So is your SUMMER over? Make sure to end it right and visit PANSACOLA BEACH RESORT in CAGBALETE.

 

Thank you Artystafoto for the photos that you provided us during our trip. Till our next adventure!

 

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Daily Post Challenge

Qualm

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Instinct VS Qualm

Instinct – a fact or quality of possessing inborn behavior patterns

Qualm – worry, uneasy feeling, having doubts

TRUST your INSTINCT, but never QUALM.

Why? Because it could be a YES or a NO.

Never doubt someone you love, because if you do not trust someone, then you do not love the person.

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How to take care of your man?

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They say, “WOMEN are POWERFUL”.. Do you agree? Well at some point, maybe.

But why just MAYBE?

Some women act like ANGELS and become WITCHES at the end of the day, because of some reasons that I just stated on my blog about “HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR WOMAN”.

But how about MEN? Some women do not know how to take care of their men as well, hence they find love from other women.

Regardless of the age, WOMEN must make their MEN feel loved.

Let’s talk about some WAYS on how to take care of a man. Or no, should I say, WAYS to make him stay..? :p

  1. Promises are made to be broken: Same with women, if you think you can not keep your promise, then just don’t. It’s as easy as 1,2,3. Women do have a superficial happiness and so do men. Both are humans, they both feel the same. Men are just seen to be stronger than women that’s why most women think they are more sensitive than men.
  2. Let them talk: Listen to your woman and let your man talk as well. A man’s ego must be built not crushed.
  3. USAE: Understand, Support, Acknowledge, Encourage. Understand what he thinks is right, Support his plans, Acknowledge his skills and Encourage him to be a better person. Never stop expressing your love with these 4 words. That’s all they needed.
  4. Ask him out: Not because you are the girl/woman in the relationship you will always wait for your man to date you. You can always ask him out for dinner, treat him for a movie or do your reports at a coffee shop together. Once in a while is not bad.
  5. Appreciate him forever: He will court you forever, then appreciate what he does for you and show him that every little thing that he has been doing counts. Big or small show him that you are grateful for having him.
  6. Do not be a nagger: I get it. A woman usually gets mad and tries to be patient as much as she can. But they get mad because her man makes her do it. However, if a man does it and a woman gets mad and annoys him more, then they clash.  REMEMBER, A man’s mistake + the woman’s madness = separation. You can always forgive a person. NOW, if you think you’ve given him chances already and you think it is already too much, then teach him a lesson. That’s the time you teach a person a lesson. But prevention is better than cure. So it’s just give and take. It won’t happen if you know how to take care of your man, and your woman won’t turn into a witch if you know how to treat her right.
  7. Notes: Not because in most cultures, women receive flowers and gifts most of the time mean it is not proper to do the same to your man. Nope. You can always send him gifts, flowers or even leaving a small note telling him how handsome he is every day before leaving for work. Not the notes that tell him to pay the bills all the time. :p
  8. Ask: Give yourself the right to ask your man about his day at work, about his friend, about his workmate, about his boss, or just random things. They need that.
  9. Surprises: I have met many women and only 5% of 100 women surprise their husband or partner. Not because he is a man, he doesn’t deserve surprises. Hey! You are both humans and you both feel the same when it comes to surprises. Maybe, some women think that their partner won’t like it or appreciate it. QUESTION: Have you tried it? Most men are not showy. They won’t show that they like it but they do.
  10. Love him: Follow the 9 ways on how to take care of your man, that explains number 10.

 

You see, we live based on the culture that we know and follow. But what if, just what if, we do the other way around, would it matter?

Not because he is a man he doesn’t deserve to be treated the way they treat their women. We give – we take. And vice versa. They also get hurt, they also cry, they also feel bad, they also experience pain. They are as well, FRAGILE.

So going back to the question, why just MAYBE? Because there are men who are also powerful, and they deserve to be treated like a king, just like how they treat their women as QUEENS. 🙂

 

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Reflection

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We learn by means of REFLECTION. If we don’t reflect, we will never learn.

If we learn without having any reflection about ourselves, then it is threatening.

Compete with yourself, not with others.

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Random Thoughts

How to take care of your woman?

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     They say, “WOMEN are POWERFUL”.. Do you agree? Well at some point, maybe.

     There are MEN who definitely won’t agree to this.. :p There are many reasons why they won’t agree, considering the status of a man in a woman’s life. It depends on the situation.

     Why do WOMEN act like ANGELS and become WITCHES at the end of the day?

     Because SOME MEN do not know how to take care of their WOMEN.

     Regardless of the age, WOMEN should be treated right.

     Let’s talk about some WAYS on how to take care of a woman. Or no, should I say, WAYS to make her remain like an ANGEL..? :p

  1. Promises are made to be broken: Then do not make a promise that you cannot keep. AS SIMPLE AS THAT. Women do have a very superficial happiness. Apparently, they don’t show that and instead give you a tiger look when you promise to come home by 11 and she sees you early in the morning. Like at 5 in the morning.
  2. Listen: Listen to her and never oppose to what she’s telling you NOT UNLESS you really think it is not right. YES, You have the right to state your own opinion, just be ready for your own world war III, or just remain quiet.
  3. VATA: Value, Appreciate, Treasure and Admire her. Never stop expressing your love doing these 4 words.
  4. Date her: Dating a woman doesn’t stop from the day you guys got married. Not because she gave birth to 4 kids and she gained a lot of weight mean you will stop dating her and will try to date someone else. NOPE! NOPE! NOPE! Remember, you loved her because you LOVE her, no reasons in loving. Otherwise, you will have to consider that as an affection. Watching a movie once in a while would do.
  5. Court her forever: When I say court her forever doesn’t mean you will have to give her expensive gifts all the time nor sending her flowers at work. Well for sure you have already spent too much money on that when you were still in your first few months. Why not invite her for coffee, write simple notes, remind her how beautiful she is especially in the morning. We believe that women are more beautiful in the morning (even without makeup).
  6. Be honest: I know that it is difficult to be VERY honest when you are in a relationship or when you are committed, but I think this is one of the rules in life. I’m sorry I can never change that. :p
  7. Random Messages: Good morning beautiful! How’s your day sexy? Have you eaten your dinner love? Believe me, 95% of women would definitely feel a romantic excitement if she sees a message like that. Come on! A single message can already make her feel happy.
  8. You do not have to ask: If you think she’d like that chocolate, just buy it. No need to ask. If you think she’d like the dress, just buy it. No need to ask. If you think she won’t like it. Just buy it! She’ll appreciate it regardless of the item.
  9. Random surprises: Surprise! I came home early from work. How’s that? Surprise I got you a cup your favorite ice cream! Surprise I bought you a new pair of nude shoes. Surprise I am here at the parking lot of your office! Anything you planned to do to make her feel happy that she doesn’t know would definitely surprise her.
  10. LOVE her: Follow the 9 ways on how to take care of your woman, that explains number 10.

You see, when you love a person you do not have to spend too much money to show her that you love her. Just spend TIME with her. And I bet she will be an angel forever.. :p Kidding. She will give you everything that you need and want in life.

     So, going back to the question. They say, “WOMEN are POWERFUL”.. Do you agree?

    WATCH OUT FOR the WAYS ON TO MAKE YOUR MAN HAPPY. Soon!

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Daily Post Challenge

A mother’s touch..

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     There are things that we cannot control… Like raining on a Monday noon even if the sun is scorching. There are moments that we cannot just leave behind… There are people that we cannot just shun… And there are instances that we cannot just avoid… Like hearing what most politicians have to say on a public interview or talk. 

     We are all very aware of what Senator Sotto said during the confirmation hearing before the commission’s appointment that brought up the status of Taguiwalo as a solo parent. 

     There are many reasons why solo parents are widely distributed in the world. A mother can be considered as a solo parent because she cannot just stand the shameless situation brought to her by her husband. Or she can be considered as one if she had been a battered wife in the past and cannot take what the husband was doing anymore. The father cannot attend to the needs of the children and the mother decided to get separated. Needless to say, solo parenting can also happen to fathers. There are as well many single fathers in the world. IT ISN’T A CRIME! 

     Senator Sotto said, “In the street language when you have children and you are single, ang tawag doon ay ‘na-ano lang.” Or YOU JUST GOT KNOCKED UP in English.

     These are some of the things that we cannot CONTROL. We are all entitled to our own opinion. Most likely that was a joke from the senator. However, there are many people who can get affected with what he said because it can hurt those who grew up with having a single parent or being a single parent himself/herself. 

     Just in time for the upcoming celebration of mother’s day. I am a SINGLE MOTHER. And there are many things that I had to consider and still have to consider up until now. It isn’t easy being a single mother. I will have to think carefully about the things in the future and until the day I die.

     Now, what is the difference between a single mother/father and a solo parent? There is a big difference between the two. You are a single mother or father. SINGLE means you do not have a partner. You do not belong to the club of couples, but you get help from people around you in raising your child/children. If you are a SOLO PARENT, you attend to the needs of your children, you work and feed your children and you keep the raises of your child. Moreover, a raped victim can also be considered as a solo parent for children grow up with their raped victim mothers which aren’t their fault. See there are many things that we should look thoughtfully for a long time before we come up with a decision whether or not it is big. 

     Yes, I was hurt when I heard about what the Senator said, but I cannot control his mind. Instead of getting affected with what he said, I figured out that I think I should just continue living a happier life planning for my daughter’s future and my future as a single/solo parent. 

     For sure, the issue will be brought up again on Mother’s day because that’s another thing that we cannot control. To Senator Sotto, I feel sad for what you have had to say to Taguiwalo including 10 other single/solo parents in the world. 

     It is easy to be a father, but it takes a lifetime to be a SINGLE MOTHER / MOTHER. And I say KUDOS to all the single/solo parents, BOTH mother and father in the world especially to all the MOTHERS who can carry themselves beautifully and SINGLEHANDEDLY raising more than 2 children on their own. You deserve to be treated like QUEENS.

     To your mother, to his mother, to her mother, to my mother and all the mothers in the world including myself, A VERY HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY! 

     “NOTHING CAN BEAT A MOTHER’S TOUCH!”

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Danger

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There’s DANGER everywhere.

Mom saying it’s dangerous to go out at night.

Dad saying it’s dangerous to talk to strangers.

Brother saying it’s dangerous to go biking at a young age.

And sister reminding me that it’s dangerous to fall in love.

What do you think of the last statement? Do you agree?

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